Dry January: Return of experience!

I publish this article while I celebrate my 5 weeks Alcohol -gray. Maybe it doesn’t seem much. But if you are used to drinking alcohol regularly, ask yourself: how long you have not spent 30 days in a row without drinking alcohol at all?

Why did I stop alcohol?

“You didn’t drink so much!” I often answer me. Well, yes, this is certain, when I see friends, I drink 5-6 glasses on Friday evening. So yes, when a friend sees me “I don’t drink so much”. But during the week I am a 10-15 glasses ! No alcohol from Monday to Wednesday evening, let’s say.

Every week. For years. Rarely less. Often more, during the holidays with friends or family … in short, I drink too much alcohol. Since I was 17-20 years old, I drank the weekend and the holidays in large quantities. So I have a training.

Drink only 1 glass or 2 for dinner with friends, I can’t do it. As apperif: 2 glasses of rosé and dinner, 3 glasses of easy wine. So more if in the evening it extended.

With my husband We love wine. We drink a lot. We are generous, we always open several bottles for dinner when we receive with us. It is part of us, it is our pleasure. We don’t like it when the servers ration the wine at the tables in weddings by putting 3 leads to serve guests. There must always be wine at the table! At will!

So no, they are not the service alcohol that ends drunk every night. I keep alcohol. It does not seem to defeat in the 6th – 7th glass. I go back, I make up, I sleep the children, I go to bed. And the next day: yes, I have a little headache, a little this feeling of being muddy. But that’s okay. Except for 2-3 years, and in particular following the containment of Covidio where we had drunk even more every evening, I am starting to realize me I systematically drink a lot.

In short, I was tired of alcohol.

Decision making

So at the end of December 2022 I told myself that I will try the dry January 2023, but without believing it too much. Why I have never been able to dry a January in full. Each time it’s 7-10 days Max! And again … and this year, it was not lost.

I practically drank every evening in December after my swimming test in Morocco. Because many holidays, opportunities, evenings even when I wanted to drink a little during dinner or prepare the meal with the children next to it …

January 2023

January 1: we don’t drink. January 2 either. January 3, to congratulate yourself for the day of the school: with my husband we finished the third bottle of walking – Italian sublime – that we had not finished the 1st year with our friends. And it was I who led these glasses … and the weekend that is followed we received friends for dinner and we drank a lot to celebrate our friendship !!

And so clearly the late dry January. Sunday 8, when I had fired my running training because “too tired”: I decided to stop drinking. Truly. I downloaded The application are sober. I recorded videos of videotcans that I quickly published on Instagram to direct an obligation to result.

I felt The need to support of my community. Because my social network community is not a band of followers / haters that admires me permanently. AND a united world Women (and men) who have the same life as me. The women who work, who have children or want to have them, women who want to be successful in life. The work, the spouse, the children, the body, the house, the passions. Brief. We understand each other, we know what we live. And what we live: it’s difficult. It is good and it is difficult. Both at the same time.

So I wanted to tell him. Because they also saw me progress. In my work, in my life as a mother, in my vegetarian diet, in the cigarette stop … I had the last health scale that I could not unlock. An unbearable link for me. A nice and festive aspect, which – as they say – makes me human and makes them guilty “.

Except alcohol It is insidious. We do not make it. But many, many women drink more than they should.

10 glasses. He is going fast. And it is true that drinking for a woman is seen as a force.

In any case, that’s how I felt like I understood the world. Or that’s how I felt like I was making the difference.

Attention, I don’t necessarily want to convince you to do like me that everyone stops alcohol. I’m talking My storymy experience. And if nobody understands it doesn’t matter, it’s nice to say it in writing.

Alcohol arrest benefits

So a month has passed. And the effects are incredible. I didn’t expect to feel so many benefits.

Major Clairvoyance

The first thing that jumped into my eyes was this feeling of clarity of the mind, of lucidity During the evenings and above all in the end. That is to say that the conversations were clear to me, I was more Connected with peopleLess in a sensation of collapse and fatigue during the evening. I was the same person At the beginning and end of the evening. I had never happened to me, I think. Except pregnant!

Greater patience

The second thing: this is the radical increase in my patience. Patience with my children in particular. Truly. In the evening, they are much more with them, less in avoidance, less in the permanent annoyance of their cries, requests, stresses, small disobedience …

I feel it totally. And that From the first 3 days. And it is true that finally when you drink 1 or 2 glasses while the children are close: We are less with them. We have our drink, not them. We have this need to change our emotions, no. In fact, we actually arrive. Which does not improve the situation at all, on the contrary.

Less pains

The third thing: it is that I have much less pains. But it’s crazy. I didn’t expect for this purpose. Before, my life was permanent pain. For all the time full of pain. From Monday to Sunday and rebel.

While they train at the bottom, especially in swimming and muscle strengthening. Is theimmense surprise for once. And it makes me want to explore this topic even more.

This is sorry for this ultra long blog article. In addition, a long time has passed since I wrote something personal on this blog. Do you like it? Laws? It’s too long? Tell me, because my goal is to be read and Brought You too on this path.

And after?

Rest? I do not know. I would really like to get to 50 days without alcohol. And then we’ll see. Drink 1 or 2 glasses When it’s really worth it, when the wine is really good, when I really appreciate it for what it is. Why not.

A bit like the relationship I have with pastries for example. I love the right cakes. But I only eat it very rarely, when I really know it will be very good and it’s worth it, it is really home. Otherwise a “chocolate darkness” defrosted in the microwave quickly made in the local brewery: I pass my turn, no interest.

For taste. For Real pleasure. And do not change your emotions, not to change my conditions, do not show others that I want better than all, not for the competition that is the least torn the next day.

One last word, to all the young mothers who drink alcohol because it is a bit difficult in the evening when you come home. To all the guys who are only in a hurry: drink 1 or 2 beers when I went home from work. For all women who think that drinking a lot is interesting and fashionable. To those who think that those who surround them expect they drink appreciated. To all those who drink more than 10-15 glasses of alcohol per week. You can decide to stop.

Good luck, I think of you.